As some of you might know, my husband was mainly a Kungfu trainer before he met me. He still is, part time, but beginning of last year he made the decision to study something new. This decision has had major consequences on our life.
For one thing, the only place to study what he wanted was his home town, which meant for me I had either to join him or find work somewhere else and we would live separately. I tried the last option for a month, working in Shanghai. It didn’t work out. We had been in a long distance relationship for all those year I was studying at university, and even though we followed all tips to make it work, it still sucked. So, I moved to his little town. I am happy here now.
Another thing was the decision itself. It meant we wouldn’t be the average couple here. It meant our family planning had to wait until he had finished studies, or at least started to earn a bit of money. Making such a decision is not easy, and the most important part is discussing it together and deciding as a couple.
Over two years have passed since he left the last Kungfu school, his students, and went on a new journey to become proficient in acupuncture and Chinese tuina massage.
The perfect place to learn about traditional Chinese medicine
We are lucky that his home town is “the capital of Chinese medicine”. It gave him the opportunity to learn at the centre, where it happens, where Chinese herbs are not only sold in the biggest market in the whole of China (and maybe even world), but most herbs are also grown and harvested here. And so it was no surprise that finding a qualified teacher, wouldn’t be that difficult.
My husband’s godfather is a traditional Chinese medicine (TCM) doctor, and so he had good connections to TCM hospitals and knew who was a good doctor and who was only after money. Through these connections we finally found Doctor Zhu 朱医生. I was still in London at that time, and Jin had to make all arrangements alone. There was a lot of gift giving involved in the first stage of getting to know each other, but that’s just how things are here.
I know my husband is a very good judge of character, so when he told me Doctor Zhu would be perfect to teach him, I trusted him fully.
Doctor Zhu: A young, but experienced acupuncturist
When we met Doctor Zhu first, I was worried that he might be too young. With a bit over 30 years old, he was not how I envisioned an old wise traditional Chinese medicine doctor. He had graduated from Beijing Chinese Medicine University and all his credentials were perfect, so I thought if he is willing to teach my husband, let’s just try it.
Over the past year I have learned that Doctor Zhu is a professional in his field. He has specialised in stroke patients. I can say I have seen him perform miracles. Some patients unable to walk and talk after a stroke, I have followed their progress over the past year, and now they are able to walk towards me, shake my hand and even tell me how much they have missed me.
With a lot of his and my husband’s patients we have become close friends. And we have also become very close with Doctor Zhu.
His family has been always very kind to us and welcomed us as one of them. Doctor Zhu is more than only a teacher to my husband, but he has become his bigger brother. I am blessed to see how those to have become so close and even more amazed on how much Jin has learned in those two years.
When he started out, Jin did an internship at the hospital Doctor Zhu is working. He would give him lessons every evening after the normal work day was over. After half a year Jin was able to work with a few patients himself. He enjoys being with people and helping them.
From Big Hospital to Little TCM Clinic
After nearly a year of working at the hospital and learning new things every day, Doctor Zhu thought it was time for Jin to get some more responsibility.
Together with Doctor Zhu’s mother and his sister, they opened a small TCM clinic and gave Jin the opportunity to reign on his own.
Since November 1st 2014 my husband and Doctor Zhu’s sister have been working at the clinic. They have come from 10 patients per day, to 10 patients per hour. I am really proud of them and I feel it’s a great accomplishment.
Yesterday it was the one year anniversary and we had a huge feast to celebrate and of course, a cake.
I have finally fully settled down in this city, and am happy to have those friends at my side. What more can you wish for as a happy husband and getting along with your co-workers, even calling them friends?
I am sure their journey has only just begun, and more is to come. So stay tuned, and maybe one day we will open our own TCM hospital. Dream big, right?
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