It was February 2014 and I’d been living in Okinawa, Japan for about a year and a half. I didn’t care much for speaking Japanese because I was still in my listening phase of language acquisition. I was still feeling out the sounds for the language and it was finally starting to sound less like gibberish and a bit like, well, Japanese.
There was never motivation to really speak because the area I live in is infested with American military. When most Okinawans see my face, they automatically speak English. It was easy and I liked it.
I started the Cross Fit. I promise it’s not a cult, but I digress. My coach was super hot. He was tall, built, tan and handsome. My inner derp was commenting, “Well, hello there, sir.” But here is where my derp increases ten fold. How do I talk to him because he can’t speak English? Here’s how to learn Japanese the sexy way and have fun doing it.
- Get motivated by a sexy, hot, cute, etc. guy
Luckily for me, my Cross Fit coach couldn’t speak much English, which was an advantage because I had to learn Japanese. During my free time at school, I would take out my my language course books, and study how to ask simple things. What is your hobby, when is your birthday, and what is your blood type were my first utterances.
- Buy a stupid book
Has anyone ever heard of the book, Making Out in Japanese? I wanted to learn how to flirt, so I bought the book and asked the social studies teacher who studied abroad in Texas to help me out. Going over the silly phrases caused an enormous laughing session because most Japanese would never say them. I distinctly remember him saying, “You just wasted $10.00.”
- Practice on the cute guy
Practice makes perfect and there were plenty of times the cute boys I spoke to had no idea what I was saying. They would just laugh it off. Looking back at it, I laugh too because I sounded silly, but I learned. Those mistakes will only help you not to make them again.
- Ask your girlfriends how to flirt
Culture has a part in how flirting is done, and I asked the awesome PE teacher with a great personality to teach me cute flirting phrases. Your girlfriends have been in the Japanese dating game longer than you and they’re a great resource! Needless to say, it has come in handy, and I have been introduced to more cute Japanese boys because of it.
- Know your accent is cute
Take advantage of how adorable you sound with your accent when you try to express yourself. The Japanese love their youthful culture so when you make cute mistakes, it makes more people flock to you. There have been plenty of times where I didn’t know a word in Japanese and had my Japanese friends or the cute boy solve the debacle.
- You’re more attractive
Learning a language is hard and knowing how easily some Japanese give up on exercising and learning English, they love it when you speak their language. Speaking the language of your host country makes you look attractive because you’re showing interest and adaptability. You’re attractive because you have to be dedicated, committed and driven to learn. It means you’re a better communicator. It shows you can navigate across language and cultural barriers. By doing so, you show the ability to empathize and think outside the box.
Learning a foreign language through cute boys has so many benefits. Before I talk to cute boys, I practice with my girlfriends which gives us a pretty great laugh. I found my motivation for learning is talking to cute boys. Why not speak his language and see his country the way he does? I’ve personally had a great time talking to cute boys and had my Japanese ability increase because of it. By knowing you’re attractive for speaking another language, you can feel attractive. Good luck!
About the Author:
Gina Bear is currently an expat woman living in Okinawa, Japan. In 2012 she found herself in the Land of the Rising sun and has been [mis]adventuring ever since. She blogs about her trials, turbulations and triumps while living on a small island in the middle of the Pacific. When she’s not lost in translation, you’ll find her at Cross Fit, playing the sanshin or swimming in the ocean. You can check out her Instagram and YouTube channel if you’re bored and looking for entertainment.
Latest posts by Anna Z. (see all)
- Why You Need a VPN in China - March 4, 2017
- “Sheng Da Pang Sunzi 生大胖孙子” The pressure of having a boy in rural China - December 11, 2016
- “Your baby must be cold!” – Comic - December 4, 2016
- The Thing I Wish I Knew Before Marrying into a Chinese Family - November 20, 2016
- ‘Sitting the Month’: Postpartum Traditions in Rural Anhui - October 30, 2016